Yesterday I received a note that read something like this:
Today, I'm hurting more than ever. I just can't seem to stop crying, remembering and hurting. I feel so lonely and broken. What do I do?
I wanted to give you the tools I offered her so you also have a guide to help you when life gets hard.
I said something like this:
When you are triggered (as you are today) into crying, remembering, hurting, etc. I encourage you to be gentle with yourself and try some simple tools to calm your nervous system.
Here are 3 simple shifts to open your heart. I often use these when I can feel myself closing off. This is a common reaction to stress (especially for those of us who have been hurt deeply in the past).
Sometimes, when I least expect it, another layer of my grief pops up to the surface to be healed.
I was recently gifted with an opportunity to re-deal with some sticky abandonment issues left over from my mom's death -which was likely a suicide.
Someone really close to my heart left for a few weeks on vacation and my stress level increased to a place I knew (consciously) wasn't appropriate for the present-moment situation.
It was time to practice what I preach.
Yesterday I was talking to a friend about how to let go of the need to control life which is often easier said then done - especially when we are dealing with stress. And perhaps even more so when dealing with the stress of loss.
I have been working to forgive on my own personal journey a lot in the past little while and wanted to share with you a practice that I find hugely powerful.
This forgiveness practice comes from ho’oponopono a ancient Hawaiian healing modality.
I arrived here in India 3 days ago after the most epic journey which got me thinking. After my 33 hour travel day I had a sore neck. If I was a client I would ask, "what is your body telling you?" And, offer the following contemplation.
"Is there something in your life you are afraid to look at or say or express?"
Please enjoy my favourite tips for self love.