Who else wants to sleep better?

simple healing tools Oct 17, 2018

When you are grieving, sleep is often a big problem. 

Today I'm going to share with you the one practice that I do (almost) everyday before bed. Even on days where my posture practice or my meditation practice go out the window, this one sticks because it's SO simple. And, it works. 

Right before I go to bed, I take 2 minutes to massage my feet with oil. I usually just use coconut oil (because it's there) but I sometimes add in other essential oils as well. 

This simple practice, ends my day with a small pause, a dose of self love, and a deep sense of grounding. It helps bring my energy out of my busy mind, so I can set myself up for a good night's sleep. 

I invite you to give it a try. If it feels right, try it for at least 21 days to set it up as a new healthy habit. 

Sweet dreams and LOVE, 

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That time I overshared in an interview...

real grief moments Oct 09, 2018

The other day I had the great honour of being interview by Chrissy Anne Hollis for her weekly video series that features women out there trailblazing the new grief paradigm. 

She made me feel so comfortable that I pretty much shared everything. The good, the bad, the ugly and everything in-between. 

I shared about what it was like to tell the person I loved most in the world that he was dying. 

I shared what it was like to need my mom so bad but not have any idea where she was. 

I shared about my mom's drug addiction and the time she offered me a crack-pipe.   I declined, btw. 

I shared how incredibly alone I felt in the aftermath of my boyfriend and mom's death. 

I shared my abandonment issues and what it's like to be a child of suicide. 

I shared my healing journey and how I reclaimed my life. 

I shared it all with the hope that you would see bits of yourself in my words and feel less alone.

I truly believe that if I...

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What My Mother's Death Taught Me About Self Love

real grief moments Sep 26, 2018

I knew she was dead before they told me. Call it the unbreakable bond between mother and daughter. Call it intuition. Call it fear or otherwise…All I know is, I knew. 

Growing up, my mom was the textbook definition of a soccer mom. She was that mom with the mini-van and the cupcakes. The one who sewed all of our costumes (and our friend’s costumes) and never missed a P.T.A meeting.  

She filled our proverbial cup first. She deserved to fill her own. But she didn’t know it. 

She had long silky dark hair and black eyes that looked at me with both deep love and deep hurt. Her eyes held secrets that sometimes bubbled up in gentle fits of rage.  

She was beautiful. But she didn’t see it. 

She was shy and had a certain coyness that perhaps stemmed from childhood trauma, deep-seated limiting beliefs and an unmet need to feel like she belonged. 

The truth is, she did belong. With me. With us. But she didn’t feel it. 

My mother was...

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FREE CLASS - Want to feel feel relaxed?

simple healing tools Sep 17, 2018

 

Because so much of your life (including how you grieve) is determined by your unconscious mind, it is imperative that you get it on board with your healing.

In this gentle and nurturing class, I lovingly use repetitive mantra to support the unconscious mind in relaxing.

When practiced regularly, you will experience a deeper feeling of inner peace across all aspects of your life - because when you relax yourself, you heal yourself.

I'm here to show you how. 

You'll find this brand new Yoga for Grief class in the link below. 

It's free! 

https://www.nickycjones.com/p/freebies

With LOVE, 

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The 4 A's of Grief Healing

simple healing tools Aug 07, 2018

We made it home after an epic trip that involved a two-year-old meltdown that shut down the airport security line and a bathroom escape that had me abandon our luggage and run through the airport with my pants down; but, we’re here, and it feels good to settle back in to our Santa Barbara home. I took a little time to manage the big transition and I thank you for your patience.

When I was back on Vancouver Island, I filmed several more videos including a full Yoga for Grief Program for DoYogaWithMe.com. More on that later…

But for now, I’d like to share a helpful tip from the Yoga for Grief program.

Grief healing is a tricky beast and there is no real ‘cure’ other than moving through it and integrating as you go, but there are things you can do to help. Which brings me to...

The 4 A’s of Grief Healing:

1. Awareness: This means bringing in an awareness of your grief. It means noticing where and how it is affecting you - and doing so with a...

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Why An Elvis Impersonator Singing Frank Sinatra Made Me Cry

real grief moments Jul 06, 2018

This weekend, I went to the Canada Day celebration in my hometown.

It was a sweet little island festival featuring Elvis, Dolly and Patsy impersonators. It doesn't get much better than that!

The festival is held at "The Flats" - a flat grassy piece of land down by the river dabbled with campsites and little buildings for cooking, etc.

For as long as I can remember, I've been going there, helping set up various town events.

My papa made the structures.

My nana cooked the food.

My mom painted the signs.  

My dad competed in the events.

My cousins, brother and I ran freely, all jacked up on cotton candy and LOVE.

These events are imprinted in the very fabric of my being.

The smells. The sounds. The sights. The quality of the air against my skin.

They all elicit deep memories of a happy childhood and a devoted family surrounded by a tight knit and supportive community.

The ‘before shot’.

Before addiction rampaged through. Before illness. And divorce. And death....

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How To Be With Uncomfortable Emotions

simple healing tools Jun 14, 2018

Chances are, if you’re grieving, you’ve heard the saying “you’ve got to feel it to heal it.” The problem is, feeling it can be terrifying.

Last night in my free Facebook group Healing Grief Holistically, I led a meditation class called Relax your Emotional Body that addressed this head on.

We focussed on becoming aware of and allowing our uncomfortable emotions so we could invite in healing.

And, even though I prefaced the meditation by saying it would be a loving and safe experience, participants were still scared. They said things like, “I’m afraid to allow my emotions. I’m afraid if I do, they’ll consume me or cannibalize me.”

I get it. I’ve been there and allowing your emotions can definitely feel scary. Which is why this is even more important.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Carl Jung. It says, “what we resist persists.”  In this context, it means that when we resist...

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If You're Feeling Overwhelmed, Try This

simple healing tools May 08, 2018

Hi from Canada - eh! ;)

About a month ago we made a semi-spontaneous decision to spend the summer in my hometown on Vancouver Island. I've been homesick pretty much the entire time we've lived in Santa Barbara and a series of things came together to make it possible, so we just decided to go for it.

I'm beyond happy to be here and settle in for while.

That said, all the change has left me feeling a little overwhelmed and being 'home' has stirred some grief up to the surface.

Cue the grounding exercises.

When I notice myself feeling anxious, overwhelmed or unsettled, my go-to practice is grounding. With this, I’m always amazed at how simple it can be to bring myself back to center.

A few simple things to ground your energy:

  • Place your bare feet on the earth. I prefer the grass or sand but in a pinch, even the floor will do (as long as it’s done with intention). 
  • Go for a walk in nature. Pay particular attention to your feet as you take each step.
  • Take in...
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Do you feel like you should be over it by now?

simple healing tools Mar 28, 2018

The other day, I interviewed some women in this community as part of an effort to find ways to better serve. 

One question I asked was: How do you fear your close friends and family would react if they knew how hard grief was for you?

They all had a list of answers that really coincided with one another.  

The one response that really stood out was: I think they would think "gosh, it's been a while, why can't you just get over it?" 

This answer was universal. 

From a women who'd lost her husband 7 years ago.

A women who'd lost her sister 3 years ago.

And, woman who'd lost her mother 7 months ago. 

It didn't matter how long it'd been. They all felt the same way. 

And, if I'm being honest with myself, I often feel the same way too. 

So what can you do about it? 

Start by giving yourself a little love: What if whenever the thought, I should be over this by now popped up you said, I'm not over it, and that's okay. Take some of the...

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Stuck in Shoulda-Coulda-Woulda? Try This Free Audio Meditation

simple healing tools Mar 01, 2018

 

If you're grieving, any kind of grief, I can almost guarantee that you've suffered from shoulda-coulda-woulda at some point along your journey. 

 

I'll let you fill in the blanks: 

  • I should have...
  • I wish I had...
  • If only I....
  • I could have...
  • If they were still alive we could have...
  • If they were still here we would have...
  • etc. 


The problem with this, is that it brings you out of the present moment. It brings you into the past and into the future where you are trying to re-write what actually happened. And, while doing that, it often puts your nervous system into a state of fight, flight or freeze - increasing your stress levels and decreasing your body's natural ability to heal. 

Disclaimer:  If you find yourself in shoulda-coulda-woulda, please know there is nothing wrong with you. This is a perfectly natural part of grieving.  I've been there myself many, many times. So please be kind to yourself. Tell yourself that it's okay that...

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